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In his book Solitude: A Return To The Self, the British psychiatrist Anthony Storr cited Beethoven, Kafka and Newton as examples of solitary genius.‘You don’t have to be sitting at home writing War And Peace,’ says Hodson.‘But being alone helps you process your thoughts and come to your own conclusions about the world, which is part of being an independent, thinking adult.The thought of a week booked up with social engagements sends me into a panic. Greta Garbo might have made solitude alluring with her pronouncement ‘I want to be alone . .’ but today, if you’re not willing to be in touch with people 24 hours a day by tweets, texts or at organic dinner parties, you’re viewed with suspicion. But finally new research into the power of solitude is backing up my desire to be left alone.The modern image of happiness, as seen in adverts for anything from Doritos to M&S frocks, is a laughing group of friends. The studies have found that regular time by yourself is not only an essential part of developing fully rounded personalities, but it helps us to focus and think creatively.Meanwhile, the word ‘loner’ is more likely to be used in a headline that ends ‘. Perhaps most surprisingly, the research suggests that blocking off enough alone time is essential if we want to maintain good relationships because taking time for ourselves gives us the energy to be empathetic and caring with loved ones.‘People spend hours every day looking for or tending to their relationships, but to have good relationships with others, you need to have a good relationship with yourself, and for that you need to know yourself. You spend time by yourself.’ And it’s not just relationships that can be improved by a bit of alone time — it helps our brains, too.Solitude has long been linked with creativity, spirituality and intellectual might.If you really like her, just go with the flow and be yourself, regardless of whether “yourself” is a silly, dorky, immature 57-year old or a wise and mature 24.Do be understanding I can get kind of defensive when dating older guys, worried that some might see me as another notch on the bedpost, or fresh meat to pass the time until someone more serious comes along.
Older men, it seems to me, are like gold dust on the dating scene right now.‘We’re scared of what we’ll find when we’re alone with our thoughts.